Are you ashamed of yourself? It always happens to most of
us.
It seems that everyone is building billions of dollars in
business, becoming a YouTube star or doing big things on Instagram.
Deep down, most of us know that this is 99% nonsense. But at
the same time, we see all these people living an awesome life, we don't care if
it is real.
Whether you want money, fame, travel, or not, it doesn't
matter, because it always comes down to: How confident are you?
Do you have enough confidence to say "fucking" and
pursue your dreams?
You have enough confidence to say "Fuck all these
nonsense, I don't need it" and stick to it?
look? If you want to win in life, self-confidence is very
important - no matter what you pursue, lack of confidence can always hinder you.
Studies have even shown that lack of self-confidence is
related to the following factors:
depression
Loneliness and feelings are forgotten
Reduce academic performance
Reduce life satisfaction
I have been studying self-confidence for many years and the
the most practical theory I have found is "confidence of ability."
In 1952, Bernice Milburn Moore published an article in the
"Educational Leadership" magazine entitled "The Ability of
Self-Confidence." In the article, she discussed the teacher's self-confidence,
but I found it useful in all living environments.
If you look at the definition of self-confidence, you will
always get more or less the same description. Moore describes it as "the
trust in oneself, the belief in a person's ability to encounter a situation
that may arise."
But more importantly, she said:
“The lack of self-confidence is as little as the lack of
confidence.”
This means: going to a business school is the ability.
However, leveraging your business capabilities to lead a company is confidence
and ability. They are only useful when combined.
This analogy is two-way. If you don't have the ability, it's
useless to have confidence in yourself - speaking is not a sustainable
strategy.
You need to talk and bluff, but you also need to develop
skills to support your conversation.
Building self-confidence
So if you get better about what you are doing, you will
become more confident. This is the system, which is supported by research.
How do you use this information? The following process is
simple - but it takes a lot of hard work to complete these steps.
It is like this:
Improve your ability
Put them into practice
View Results
Become more confident
repeat
This is the process.
"It's good, but what if I can't see the results? Also,
I don't have time to practice."
If you want to find an excuse, that's okay. This is your
life. But this method of building self-confidence is based on real, tangible
steps, not something as intangible. Confidence itself is not magical.
You can tell yourself every day that you have confidence,
luck, or something else - but if you lack the skills to complete the task, you
will never really believe in yourself.
This is my biggest problem with many self-help theories and
writers. Yes, yes, positive thinking, goal setting, all great, but there is no
implementation without it.
If you do nothing, how can you expect to build confidence?
impossible.
“Nothing can build self-esteem and confidence like an
achievement.” - Thomas Carlisle
“What capabilities should I improve?”
It depends on what you are after. But there are also some
skills that I think everyone can benefit from.
Emotional Intelligence - Research shows that humans are
social in nature. Without a good relationship, we will die. If you want good relationships,
you need emotional intelligence: understanding other people's emotions and how
to respond to them. This is something you can learn.
Self-awareness - You can practice self-awareness through
continuous self-reflection. Write down your thoughts; try to understand why you
are doing what you do, how you can do better, and how well you are doing.
Knowing yourself.
Problem-solving - Our current school system dates back to
the industrial revolution. We have been trained to become a gear in a wheel. We
have not received training to solve problems in complex situations - instead,
we act in accordance with our requirements. But the world has changed. In the
current state, people who are good at solving problems will win.
Don't deceive yourself into thinking that your life will be
better if you like.
When you get to work and see the results - like a stronger
body, more energy, more money, or anything you're after - you start to believe
that you have the ability to complete the task.
Go there now, do things, improve them, see the results,
repeat the process, and grow more confident.
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