Self-Love Isn’t About Affirmations

Imagine if your partner tells you every day that they love you, but they will also kill you in every opportunity you get, and indirectly but actively destroy your long-term happiness.

Imagine if every day, they promise you that you are beautiful, they like your laughter. Imagine if they scribbled down the little love notes and left them in those - "You are loved", "You are enough" - and always tell you how much they love your goodness, your charm, Your determination, the freckles on your cheeks.

But imagine if the same person encourages you to live only a small part of your life. Let us say that they encourage you to avoid responsibility, support your bad habits, hold drinks in your hands, give you junk food, convince you not to go to the gym, take your credit card out of your pocket, and hand you each time. Have to use the money you don't have impulsively.

Do you believe that this person really cares about you?

Self-love is action, not affirmation

From partners, from ourselves. This is about a long-term investment in the true well-being of this person, rather than an immediate indulgence to destroy it.

It is not the same thing to say that you love someone and really love them.

Love is not to make anyone "small". This is not to tell them what they can't do, or to defeat their dreams, or to violate their promises. Even with "funny dating nights", "affirmative" and "cute surprises", it's definitely not about these things.

The same is true for self-love.

You can tell yourself all the affirmations you want, read endless blog posts about how valuable you are, and stick to millions of post-it notes reminding yourself that "you are enough" in every mirror of your home, but these It is not true self-love.

True self-love is not direct happiness. This is about long-term happiness.

Heidi Priebe wrote,

"If you often destroy your long-term happiness, you will not love yourself. No matter how often you tell yourself."

Not taking care of your health is self-destructive. Failure to set and maintain goals is self-destructive. Both are self-hatred, not self-love.

Self-love is not consumption, but savings for the future. It will sleep in a good time, wake up in a good time, eat healthy food, and suppress our drinking and exercise.

“Self-love is not just about what you tell yourself to make you feel better – but about how you make yourself better.”

This is about long-term planning. Our commitment to ourselves - and keep it. Our daily support in meeting these challenges. Work hard, swear, blood, sweat and tears - even if we want to give up, we will continue to cheerleaders.

“The more you work hard to improve your life, the less you will feel the need to be kind to yourself. Be sure of yourself. Remind yourself that you are worth it – because you have proven yourself to yourself through your actions.”

This is any kind of love - the perception of others, to yourself.